IDEoLOGY vs IDEaL - hobsons choice !

Of life, - replete with complexities:

 < practical x impractical;

<  legal x legitimate

<  Right x wrong

In short >

Self-centric X ‘public ‘centric OR

Better put, -

Subjective (judgmental) X Objective (altruistic)

Sensitive Indians – We as a nation are becoming more and more thin-skinned

 < Sensitivities are tricky things, to say the least. And the less said about them the better because you never know which sensitive toe you might inadvertently tread on. Ouch! >

 

Overcome your negative emotions

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< The FIRST STEP is to openly experience and observe the emotion but prevent any kind of action. Sit still and let emotions come up in your mind. Witness all the feelings and associated thoughts. Do not act on your feelings. Translate raw emotions into words; come up with elaborate description of how you feel. Think or write freely whatever comes to your mind without any censorship. This in itself is very healing as emotions get space for expression. Once emotions get translated into words their intensity comes down automatically.

 Developing empathy for one’s emotions is the second crucial step. When confronted with negative emotions people wrongly assume that having negative feelings indicate that they are bad and flawed. It is these learnt judgments that make people feel scared of their own deeper psychology. Drop these judgements and openly accept the way you feel. Tell yourself that it is perfectly human to feel hurt, angry and miserable. Remind yourself that when Shiva was mourning the loss of his wife Sati, he also experienced immense pain and rage. Both pleasure and pain are an integral part of life. We cannot always choose pleasure and escape pain. Tell yourself that you also can feel vulnerable and it is alright to feel vulnerable. As you internalise this stance you will feel light and liberated.
 Once you have accepted and understood your negative emotions proceed to the third step of constructive expression of emotions. Develop empathy for others-- they hurt you because they were also hurt. Within every perpetrator there is a former victim. Let’s break this cycle by stopping ourselves from being the perpetrator and victimising others. It means expressing your emotions in a manner that makes you feel heard but at the same time does not hurt the feelings of others. To master negative emotions we don’t need to fight but to provide constructive space for our feelings.
 The writer is a clinical psychologist. >

Source: http://www.speakingtree.in/article/overcome-your-negative-emotions

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Will Durant Quotes - BrainyQuote

Will Durant Quotes (Author of The Story of Philosophy)

To simply quote, or re quote, without first earnestly  trying to and insight fully understanding the hidden message,- by self examining /ensuring its contextual relevance,thoughtfully and  in proper light,- could serve no  earthly / life purpose; anyway, no truly useful purpose - no better than useless tinsel, or worse than- 'devil quoting scriptures', or counsel citing case law, just for the heck of it, thereby misleading court, knowing or otherwise as not to 'cover' the case on hand 'on all fours'.

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In perennial quest:

Fast food, rather meaningful clues cryptic though, to inspire - anyone interested in ‘self-improvement’, to the end of ‘personal excellence’ in the long run,-  further thoughts on useful lines.

In short, to ‘introspect’ (< inward looking).

To add (selectively): The two of the often debated concepts of ‘IQ’ and “emotions” are of different shades and variances, For  instance, ‘emotions’ (EQ) are broadly of two  kinds– positive and negative, having mutually  fundamental  differences , and having a direct bearing on the level of ‘IQ’.

To make a beginning, fresh one at   that, Zen stories may be found to be effective drops to help and dilate closed minds.

Apropos of previous posts